Throughout the novel the reader is able to understand that there is a disconnect between Mai and Thanh. However Thanh is able to maintain somewhat intimate and close relationships with other people. Thanh shares a special relationship with GI’s. This at first seems odd because she can be perceived to have a distain for Americans and the ‘American way.’ However, there is a shared experience between the two. Uncle Michael is able to appreciate Vietnam the same way the Thanh does. And regarding Bill, he is able to connect with Thanh’s status as an outsider. Thanh is considered one because she is a Vietnamese immigrant. Bill is outcasted because he fought and Vietnam and both have stigmas associated with those roles. Than’s lack of connection with Mai could stem from the fact that Mai has not been able to connect with Vietnam outside of a war. Mai’s memories, at least the ones mentioned in the book, only seem to come from the people of Vietnam like her grandfather, and father not Vietnam itself.